Sometimes, don’t you just wish the people around you could “read” how you are feeling? It would be so much easier than trying to give an explanation, or having to pretend that everything is okay.
There are definitely times when I wish that humans had a sixth sense so that I could just send off a message reading “I feel broken right now,” and have everyone respond automatically. Yet, would that be enough? Could three words (“I feel broken”) really communicate my heart cry to the people whom I encounter?
I doubt it. I sometimes wonder if any words could ever truly allow someone to get inside of my emotions and my heart when life hurts. Maybe after years and years of unburdening my soul in parallel situations I could bring someone to really understand. Yet that doesn’t help me today, on a down day, on a day when the sadness and the loss fill me and make me want the whole world to understand.
Have some of you experienced feelings like this? Before I ask, I suspect that I know the answer. I believe that many people have felt the way I feel and have desperately wanted other people to understand them. The way we express such a desire and the nuances of how we experience it are certainly different, but I believe that at some point all of us have desperately longed to be understood, for one reason or another.
Sadly, there is no magical way that everyone we meet on the street can know how we are feeling. Certainly it’s wise to turn to the close relationships in our lives at difficult times… But sometimes, even there, we are disappointed.
However, though I have had to honestly face these sad conclusions about our potential disappointment in the search to be understood, I have been reminded of two positive things. First, I have seen that we can start creating an environment where people understand better. Hard as it sometimes is, we can work to look outside ourselves, see other people who seem like they may also be facing something difficult, and be willing to start conversations that can lead to empathy. Other people are searching for love and someone to understand them, just as we are.
Second, though the world can be pretty disappointing when it comes to trying to find someone to whom you can unburden your soul, there is one Person out there whom I know “gets it.” He understands me even before I start telling him how I feel. Unlike a lot of people, he actually always wants me to talk to him and tell him how I’m doing. He says to me, “Cast your burden on me, because I care for you.” He is my God who wrote many beautiful and comforting words in his book the Bible, where he offers hope, compassion and a perfect relationship to anyone who will come to him (you can read more about this in the “about” section of this blog). As I talk to him and start trying to reach out to other people around me, the hard days in this world start feeling less lonely.